By: Mirabelle Summers

 “I once had a thousand desires. But in my one desire to know you, all else melted away.”

- Rumi

Rita, a massage therapist from San Diego, was fresh from a breakup when she met Henry.

Her ex walked out on her without warning after five whole years of being together. So, she was keen on starting over with her new guy.

She’d only been seeing Henry for a couple of months, but she knew he was different from the guys she’d been seeing during the short time she became single.

Several dates later, everything was going great…

…until, well, they weren’t.

Henry was super affectionate and constantly updating Rita with what he was up to. If he wasn’t sending funny messages throughout the day, he’d fire off a quirky picture with a silly caption.

But then the communication slowed down to the point Rita had to text him a few times before he’d send a half-hearted reply. She practically had to beg him to make plans before they could go out again.

Henry’s behavior left Rita scratching her head in confusion. What made matters worse that her old fears of being left hanging in the air started to bubble to the surface.

She thought to herself, “Who is this guy texting me lukewarm ‘ok’s…and what has he done with the real Henry?”

 

How to Keep That Spark Burning

 

It’s pretty ironic that someone who has a job like Rita’s would have a hard time keeping a guy’s interest, isn’t it?

Ok, kidding aside, there are some things a woman can do to make sure her guy doesn’t ever get bored or think about leaving.

And most women think that he needs to feel a certain way all the time, like being head over heels IN LOVE 24/7.

But the truth is that romantic love ebbs and flows over time. Emotions (and people) evolve in a relationship, and it’s not about constantly being in a lovestruck state for years and years.

Those rose-colored glasses will come off at one point, and a deeper, more mature kind love will blossom in your relationship.

You can help that natural process move along if you give him the signs that you’re a solid partner.

And that starts with creating a stable, grounded relationship that can get through the roughest patches and stay generally positive throughout.

If this climate exists between you two, he’ll stick around no matter how long (or short) you’ve been together.

You just need to cultivate the right habits to make this happen:

 

#1: Make him work for it

 

You see, the hottest relationships are all about push and pull. This is a dynamic where a person pushes their partner into making them feel attractive, desired and the most amazing person they’ve met.

Then the person doing the pushing withdraws a bit – or pulls away - so that they reverse roles with their partner. This way, the hunter becomes the hunted.

Lather, rinse, repeat.

Sometimes, you might push too hard that your guy feels smothered. Or he might give up and lose interest if you play “hard to get” too much.

So, it’s a rather delicate balance to achieve. But when it’s done right, it’s tons of FUN.

Here are a few ways to create this dynamic:

• Don’t be available ALL the time. Keep your schedule balanced and keep doing all the stuff that keeps you happy, fulfilled, refreshed and revitalized.

 

• Have a hobby or passion that doesn’t necessarily pay the bills, but makes you, YOU. Men are interested in a woman who makes it a point to be interesting. This works great because it gives you an additional sense of purpose while effortlessly impressing your guy in the process.

 

• Let your guy DO his own stuff, too. If he says he’s going fishing with the boys or anything else that involves hanging out with them, LET HIM. This sounds like common sense…that is, until the neediness monster takes over. Don’t drop by with a pizza to “see how he’s doing”, or bombard him with a bunch of texts asking him to check in with you. All guys in a relationship need to feel free – within a reasonable level, of course.

 

• Introduce a little tension. Tease him a bit and be playful. Bust his chops every now and then and give him a hard time like his pals do. In some ways, he’s still that kid at the playground trying to catch a girl’s attention by poking fun at her and launching spitballs or whatever. So flirting with him flips the script, keeps him on his toes and hot on your trail.

 

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#2: Be his number one fan

 

If you want your man to stay in the game, take the initiative by setting the bar.

Show him the same behavior you’d like to see from him. Having his back is a good way to do that.

A guy needs to know that you appreciate and cherish who he is now, and who he’s capable of being in the future. This makes him feel accepted and secure in the knowledge that you’re rooting for him.

That means he doesn’t have to hold back some part of himself because he has no reason to. He knows he can be himself, including being vulnerable around you.

And when he can let his guard down with you, it’s a huge sign of TRUST, which is the building block of any successful relationship.

 

#3: Build those inner roads

 

A guy is more likely to stay when his woman knows how to make him feel connected to her.

You can do this by having a good layout of his world. There are a lot of things that occupy his thoughts and make up who he is.

So the more you’re aware of this, the more he’ll know that you care about him as a WHOLE.

Sad to say, but a lot of men bail because they feel their partner is more concerned about filling THAT role in her life, rather than seeing them as a person.

That said, try to familiarize yourself with the following:

• Who’s the biggest person giving him a hard time at work?
• Who are his closest friends?
• Who were his heroes growing up?
• What’s the one thing keeping him up at night?
• What’s his greatest fear?
• What are the things he hasn’t accomplished yet, and would like to do in the next five years?
• If money wasn’t a thing, what would be the perfect job for him?

 

#4: Make it OK for him to disagree with you

 

Oftentimes a guy is afraid that he can’t be honest about his thoughts or opinions with his girl.

He’s worried she’s going to freak out or get into a screaming argument about it.

(Most of the time, in that order.)

Worse, a lot of men have been burned by past partners who tell them it’s ok to be honest…but proceed with said behavior.

To a guy, that’s like asking him to walk through a door…

…with Jason from Friday the 13^th waiting with a chainsaw on the other side.

Admittedly, it takes a certain level of maturity to get to a place where you can accept your differences without attacking each other.

And to be perfectly honest, guys are also guilty of this one, too. But to them though, this is a particularly sore spot.

So, if you’re able to handle his opinions and not fly off the handle, he’ll feel more safe around you.

 

#5: Tune into his needs

 

“Well, wait a minute,” you might say. “What about MY needs? Do you expect me to live to please him? Isn’t that one-sided??”

Listen, I get you. No one in their right mind would expect to do ALL the work while the other person sits back and eats their proverbial cake.

If he’s self-centered and makes the relationship all about him, you shouldn’t waste your time on that kind of man. Fair enough, right?

But if you’re with a swell guy (and I’m guessing that he is), your happiness is on his priority list. It’s in every decent guy’s DNA to make sure of that.

And going back to what I said before about setting the bar, a man also loves a woman who can meet him halfway on this.

So build on the habit of getting to know him better, then use that knowledge to give him what he needs.

When you have a good grasp of what he likes and doesn’t like, it’s easy to do little things that make him feel special and valued.

Stuff like his favorite movies, top food choices, interests and hobbies will give you a good idea of the things you can do for him.

The more personalized your acts of kindness are, the bigger effect they’ll have on your man.

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#6: Don’t neglect yourself

 

I said earlier that you shouldn’t let your passions, social life and career slide because they make you the woman he loves.

And the other side of that coin is taking care of yourself on a more basic level - mainly your looks and well-being.

Now, I’m not saying he shouldn’t do the same…

…I just mean that you should do your part no matter what.

Again, it’s on him if he’s not meeting you halfway.

But here’s the thing: men are NOT after perfection or supermodel-like features in a long-term partner. Deep inside, they know that only gets your foot in the door.

In the bigger scheme of things, he just wants to know you’re making the EFFORT.

That’s it.

He just needs to know you care about looking good around him, and caring about yourself in general.

So, that means being on top of the big three: Fitness, Health and Fashion.

Look at it this way - you’re going to have to do this whether you’re single or in a relationship.

So it’s better to be up to scratch on this stuff - and get a serious partner out of it in the process!

 

#7: Keep him busy in the bedroom

 

Of course, I’m going to talk about this. I might sound a little harsh about this, but the sexual component is a non-negotiable in your relationship.

Otherwise, you might end up with a good friend instead of a romantic partner.

So, make him feel like he’s the hottest guy you’ve met.

He knows full well he’s no Brad Pitt (but good on you if he does look like him), but it still matters to him that you DESIRE him that way.

Men want to be WANTED, just like you do. And when you only have eyes for each other – he won’t look elsewhere.

For starters, don’t be afraid to get tactile with him even when you’re not doing the deed. Hold his hand in public, touch his arm often and give him a kiss before parting ways.

As for the main event, communicate your desires to him when you’re in the heat of the moment.

Tell him when he’s doing it right, get a bit vocal and compliment him on his masculinity.

As far as the bigger picture’s concerned, guys aren’t after the perfect partner or relationship.

They’re more interested in someone who’s just as on board as they are – and more importantly, reassures them that they’re committing to the RIGHT girl.

Once your guy knows he’s making the right choice by being with you, you won’t have to worry about where you stand with him.

But if you’re doing everything possible to keep your man interested and it STILL seems like he’s slipping away, you shouldn’t blame yourself.

Every guy is different, and he has his reasons for withdrawing that have nothing to do with you.

And if you want to know the REAL reason why men pull away – and how to STOP your guy from leaving…

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By: Mirabelle Summers

"Be the flame, not the moth." - Giacomo Casanova

We all want to be loved.

It's a human need - we yearn for that magical connection with The One Person meant for each of us.

You might be on the lookout for that guy right now, just as he's searching for someone like you.

Or maybe you're already in a relationship and you want to keep the flames of passion burning ferociously bright with your man.

Either way, you'd do well to learn the secrets to turning him on like crazy.

If you can make him feel things he's never felt with any other woman before, then he's as good as YOURS.

Meet Tina

She was like most women who stumbled in the dark when it came to men and dating.

Tina, a real estate agent from Surrey, had trouble keeping a guy around.

Either he "needed space", wasn't "ready commit to something long-term" or had some equally lame excuse available.

So she jumped from one relationship to the next and fell into the same patterns over and over.

After a few weeks of getting hot and heavy, the guy was soon out the door...

...and into another woman's arms.

Her latest one was a colleague named Jeff - and like the others, things crashed and burned before it could even get off the ground.

They had a few dates and seemed to have fun (especially in bed!), but it soon fizzled out like the others.

Jeff suddenly became unavailable, dodged Tina's calls and messages...until he was out of the picture just like that.

After her last disappointment, Tina started to get desperate. She began to think there was something seriously wrong with her.

"My last REAL relationship was almost a decade ago, and I've gotten nothing but duds ever since. Maybe I pissed off the dating gods or something to deserve my rotten luck with men!"

However, Tina is anything but an isolated case. I've met - and helped - lots of women in the same boat as her.

And today, I'm going to let you in on the 10 Incredibly Effective Ways to Capture Your Guy's Heart Forever:

#1: Please his eyes

When I tell you that you need to be physically attractive to capture his interest, that doesn't means guys are shallow.

This is what I call "getting your foot in the door."

Sure, women might not prioritize looks as much as guys do.

But you can't deny that a man ALSO needs to be visually appealing on some level before feeling attracted to him.

That's not right or wrong - it's simply biology in action.

To flip those hardwired switches in him, you'll need to put in the work.

Take note that has nothing to do with being "perfect", because that's a relative concept. Every guy has a "type" and there's no ONE kind of woman that ALL men are into.

That means you WILL click with someone, one way or another.

All you need to do is take care of yourself, which is what you should be doing anyway regardless.

I could write a whole book about looking and feeling your best, but here's a quick checklist to go over for now:

• First things first: paying attention to hygiene is non-negotiable, and so is staying fit and active. Grooming is a must, so don't neglect the basic things either. Guys need to know you care about this stuff before seeing you as a potential partner.
• Flaunt your feminine side: experiment with different scents, keep your skin smooth and soft with lotions and use makeup when necessary (tip: less is more!).
• Have an impeccable sense of style: The right packaging sends the right signals to his caveman brain, so keep your clothes neat and pressed. Also, choose soft fabrics that accentuate your curves - they have a soothing appeal that'll drive him crazy with desire!

#2: Create killer chemistry

To establish a strong connection with a guy (or strengthen it with a long-term partner), he needs to feel that he has a lot of common ground with you.

Does your personality and attitude give him the impression that he can open himself up to you?

And he can have conversations with you that seem to go on forever (but don't feel that way)?

Does he feel like you "get" him on a level that's deeper than anyone else he's met?

Does your sense of humor jive with his, and do you laugh at the same dumb jokes?

Do you have a burning curiosity for each other? Does he want to pick your brain and know what makes you tick - and likewise for you?

If your personality and attitude can create that type of climate in the relationship, then you're doing it right.

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#3: Get him to trust you

A lot of women think that getting emotionally close with a guy is as easy as sleeping with him. But jumping into bed isn't going to do the trick.

If he wasn't sure about how he felt for you BEFORE doing the deed...

...he'll feel all the more uncertain the morning after.

If you want to create an unshakable bond with your man, the first step is ACCEPTING him.

This is HUGE on a guy's list - it might even be higher than sex, if not just as important.

A man wants to feel that their partner accepts them as who he is - NOT what she wants him to be.

Women don't realize they do this in small ways, like giving him the raised eyebrow when it comes to the way he dresses.

A few helpful suggestions are fine, but don't go nuts and turn him into your personal makeover guinea pig.

The same goes for the stuff he's into or the people he hangs out with. If it's not getting in the way of your relationship, it's not worth butting heads with him over it.

#4: Be his wing(wo)man

If you want him to see you as a partner and not just a one-time fling, you need to live up to the title.

And to do that, he'll need your SUPPORT.

If he's going through a hellish time in his career or has stuff of his own to sort out, he'll need to know you've got his back.

Men tend to withdraw a bit emotionally when they're fighting some battle in their life, so don't take it personally.

He's just going into a one-track-mind mode so he can focus his energy on whatever he needs to deal with at the moment.

In the meantime, you can quietly assure him that you'll be there for him. He'll come back around after he wrestles those pesky problems into submission.

#5: Pull back

When a guy's crazy about you, the best thing to do is make yourself scarce - but just a little bit.

I'm not telling you to play the hard-to-get game where you're blowing him off on purpose just to see him squirm.

That's manipulation - and let me tell you, guys are NOT thrilled by that at all.

I'm just asking you not to "spoil" him too much and overindulge in the relationship.

Otherwise, it could throw off the balance in both your lives.

So where do you draw the line when it comes to pulling back?

An easy way to do this is by asking yourself, "Am I sacrificing my own growth, well-being or sense of individuality by hanging out too much with him?"

If your other priorities are out of whack - like your career, health or social life - then it's time to rein yourself in a bit.

Let him miss you a little and get busy being the AWESOME woman that you are.

He'd rather have someone who isn't available at his beck and call 24/7...

...as opposed to a clingy, lovesick puppy who lives and breathes for his approval.

#6: Inspire him to action

One thing that turns on a guy is the feeling of being NEEDED.

You might be thinking, "What?? Didn't you just tell me to be a strong, independent woman who doesn't need a guy to be happy?"

Well yes, but the operative word here is "feeling".

Any guy worth your time knows darn well that you don't actually NEED him to live a full life.

He just wants the privilege of being part of it anyway.

And if you let him play the game where he gets to indulge his more brutish, masculine side, he'll love you for it.

Ask him to help you out with "guy stuff", like moving some heavy stuff around, fixing something in the house, setting up your new computer or killing that bug that flew in your bathroom.

Or you could ask him for his expertise on something, like which smart TV has true 1080p resolution or how to invest in Bitcoin...you get the idea.

Men absolutely love knowing they can do this type of thing for their partner because that's their "provider/protector instinct" kicking in.

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#7: Let him do his thing

The couples who've been together the longest are those who understand that they can't be together every second of the day.

This goes beyond what I said earlier about pulling back a little.

From time to time, he's going to want to go off and express himself...

...and it won't involve you.

Women who are, well, less mature, will have a hard time accepting this fact about men.

But that's exactly what you need to respect, which is his need for individuality and independence.

This factor alone can be a dealbreaker for most guys because they're secretly afraid they'll have to give those up once he commits to a woman.

So alleviate those fears and let him have his friends, hobbies and other side projects he's working on.

#8: Take a chill pill

Another thing that guys are worried about is that their partner's going to freak out when he cracks the occasional inappropriate joke or takes an off-day playing Grand Theft Auto on his PS4.

Essentially, guys are looking for that girl who won't suck all the fun out of the relationship with her drama.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's what guys are thinking - they just don't have the nerve to tell you.

You can do this by keeping it cool when something unexpected happens, like canceled dinner plans on account of an emergency.

Or it could also mean not having unspoken, arbitrary rules in the relationship that force him to walk on eggshells around you.

You know, like not flipping out when he likes a female friend's Facebook post or Instragram selfie - or on a bigger note, acknowledging the existence of other women in his life.

If you can pick your battles and let the inconsequential stuff slide, he'll be all the happier for it.

#9: Don't MAKE him fall in love with you

This may come as a surprise to a lot of women, but you can't actually tell a guy what to think or feel...

...especially when it comes to deciding whether to commit to someone or not.

Men won't be MORE compelled to stick around if he feels FORCED into it.

Pressure is never attractive. He needs to have the freedom to CHOOSE instead of feeling like he owes it to you.

This is critical in the beginning when he's still feeling things out. Try to avoid using labels like "exclusive", "girlfriend" or "committed" until you've mutually confirmed it.

And more importantly, you shouldn't punish him in some way if he's not as "on-board" as you are.

Part of being in a relationship is stepping aside and letting it happen organically.

If you try to create that closeness by sleeping with him or give him an ultimatum, he'll eventually bail out on you since it wasn't his real decision anyway.

#10: Amazing Sex (need I say more?)

You didn't think we'd skip this one, did you?

Assuming that you've bonded with him enough and the connection is there, the sexual component of your relationship is VITAL.

Without it, you might as well be platonic friends. With that, here are some essential tips you need to know:

• Make him feel like a MAN...or THE Man, to be exact. Again, this is his caveman side we're talking about. Guys want nothing more than to please their partner - especially when it comes to that - which brings us to the next tip...
• If he's doing it right, TELL him. If your guy's lighting you up like a Christmas tree, give him the signals. Your verbal and non-verbal cues will tell him you're on bliss island. You could even slip a little R-rated language while you're in throes of passion if you're so inclined...
• Communication is KEY. We're approaching clichéd territory here, but it's crucial nonetheless. Maybe you've hit a roadblock in your sex life for whatever reason and it's keeping you from giving 100% of yourself to him. If that's the case, he deserves to know, but try to skip the harsh criticism and accusations. Trust me, if there's anything he can do to help things get back on track, he'll be more than willing.
• Use the power of the "slow burn". Men love being teased as long as they know it'll lead up to the main event. Make a game out of it and don't go for the obvious erogenous zones, like down south. Bring things to a simmering boil by touching him elsewhere that's just as powerful and erotic. Or send him a quick text about what you're going to do to him later on. Anything you that builds up the anticipation will keep him eager and willing to please you.

Whether you've been together for three months or three decades, there's always plenty you can do to make him crave you like a cool drink on a hot summer day. With the right habits, you can easily cultivate the right atmosphere in your relationship.

But there are women out there whose guy is slipping away FAST - and they need to stop him from walking out the door, pronto.

In cases like that, you'll need to bring out the big guns.

You see, I've developed a system to keep a man not only interested and attracted to you...

...but make him feel like living without you is NOT an option.

After using my powerful techniques on him, he won't see any other women aside from you.

(And while he's at it, he'll stop looking at their Facebook and Instagram feeds without you asking him - just saying...)

In other words, I can teach you how to make him OBSESSED with you so the thought of leaving won't ever cross his mind.

But let me warn you that this is powerful stuff and you should only use it on the right guy.

You need to be sure that you NEVER want him to leave you.

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